Mindfully Gay Podcast
Welcome to the Mindfully Gay Podcast hosted by Jerry Buie and John Cottrell. Listen to these heart-to-heart conversations that transcend the ordinary.
Guided by a simple yet impactful questions, John and Jerry unravel a tapestry of emotional dialogues. They delve courageously into the essence of what it means to take risks as a gay man, navigating through the intricate pathways of bravery, vulnerability, and the ultimate quest for self-acceptance. Their personal narratives of courageously facing fears and embracing their true selves are not just stories, but powerful testaments to the resilience and vibrancy of the gay experience.
Mindfully Gay Podcast
I Am Not Tragically Gay: Reframing Our Queer Stories (Epi 41)
Join hosts John and Jerry for Episode 41 of the Mindfully Gay Podcast, where they boldly challenge the narrative that being gay or queer is something tragic to endure. Inspired by Zora Neale Hurston's iconic 1928 line "I am not tragically colored," they ask: What if we said, "I am not tragically gay"?
This episode is all about reframing our queer stories--turning what society calls a burden into a gift and a source of pride.
👉 John and Jerry discuss how language and self-storytelling shape our reality. They explore how our words can either limit us or liberate us, urging listeners to notice the "spells" they cast on themselves through everyday phrases.
👉 They share the famous "scar study," illustrating how internalized beliefs can distort how we perceive others' reactions--and how this applies to queer experiences, age, body image, and coming out.
👉 You'll hear powerful personal stories about confronting internalized ageism, anxiety, and feelings of being an imposter, and how to transform these with conscious, affirming language.
👉 The hosts talk about neuroplasticity--how we can literally rewire our brains to move from self-limiting narratives to stories of self-acceptance and empowerment.
👉 They invite you to feel what radical self-acceptance is in the body, with visceral metaphors like butter melting into every pore of your being, making this practice real, sensory, and accessible.
👉 They also call for a radical cultural shift within queer communities--from superficial stereotypes and limiting social scripts to spaces that foster genuine connection, emotional safety, sex-positivity, and body-positivity.
Finally, John and Jerry leave listeners with a powerful challenge: Fill in the blank--"I am (add adverb) gay." What word affirms your truth, pride, and magic?
✅ If you're ready to reimagine your queer identity as a source of pride and power, this episode is for you.
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