Mindfully Gay Podcast
Welcome to the Mindfully Gay Podcast hosted by Jerry Buie and John Cottrell. Listen to these heart-to-heart conversations that transcend the ordinary.
Guided by a simple yet impactful questions, John and Jerry unravel a tapestry of emotional dialogues. They delve courageously into the essence of what it means to take risks as a gay man, navigating through the intricate pathways of bravery, vulnerability, and the ultimate quest for self-acceptance. Their personal narratives of courageously facing fears and embracing their true selves are not just stories, but powerful testaments to the resilience and vibrancy of the gay experience.
Mindfully Gay Podcast
What Is A Good Gay? (Epi 37)
🎙️ Mindfully Gay Podcast -- Episode Title: "What Is A Good Gay?"
Air Date: Friday, June 20, 2025
What does it really mean to be a "good gay"?
In this powerful new episode of the Mindfully Gay Podcast, John and Jerry wrestle with this loaded question--one that emerged during a retreat Jerry hosted with queer men from a wide range of backgrounds, cultures, and generations. Inspired by their honest, soul-searching conversations, the hosts bring this provocative topic to the table.
Together, they explore how the idea of a "good gay" is shaped by social expectations, cultural conditioning, and even internalized stereotypes within the LGBTQ+ community. They dive into the impact of heteronormative behavior, gay panic, and the pressure to "perform" a certain kind of gayness--whether that means being fabulous, fit, politically active, masculine, or palatable to others.
From identity policing to the perpetuation of harmful tropes, Jerry and John examine how the queer community sometimes mirrors the very norms it seeks to challenge. They don't promise easy answers--but they do open a space for honest reflection, thoughtful questions, and new possibilities for what queer authenticity could look like.
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💬 After you listen, we'd love to hear from you: How would YOU answer the question -- "What is a good gay?"
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